Comments on: Can Someone Help Me Deal With Well-Intentioned Skinny People? http://kjlivinglively.com/2010/01/20/can-someone-help-me-with-well-intentioned-skinny-people/ Learning to love and cherish my body from the inside out. Thu, 02 Feb 2012 11:05:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Deena Kay http://kjlivinglively.com/2010/01/20/can-someone-help-me-with-well-intentioned-skinny-people/#comment-561 Thu, 21 Jan 2010 22:23:15 +0000 http://kjlivinglively.com/?p=1756#comment-561 With my last comment, yeah my posts/comments are long windy. I always continue thinking about my last whatever until said “Oh something shiny” new comes along. :-) I am however a subscriber to yours! :-)

On a more serious note, I thought I’d share what can happen when people, mainly women but occasionally men, care to much about our weight and size. This was a “half drunk challenge” from a blog called Momalom. I was most definitely drunk when I wrote it and had never shared it before I posted it. Now that I have I feel like it might actually help somebody, somewhere, sometime.

http://deenakwennig.wordpress.com/about/half-drunk/?preview=true&preview_id=232&preview_nonce=0427e1eeb9

]]> By: Deena Kay http://kjlivinglively.com/2010/01/20/can-someone-help-me-with-well-intentioned-skinny-people/#comment-560 Thu, 21 Jan 2010 22:09:00 +0000 http://kjlivinglively.com/?p=1756#comment-560 LOL sounds like you’ve got some wonderful friends! :-) There will however always be nasty, thoughtless people with ill intent because they’re haters. Some of them may very well be us “skinny folks”. I’m a size 0 and a 1 on my heavier days ( water weight from Aunt Flow). I’d like to be around 2 or 3 but just can’t seen to get there while also having a proper body composition. I “gots” me some bad feet and knees so running and many excersizes are just not going to work. I guess in the end, be happy with who you are and be happy that you have friends that you can talk to about those things and who empathize.

Hell I worked with a group of women and they all started some nasty rumor that I was a drug addict and that’s the reason I was thin. Sucky women, we come in all sizes! :-) Happy to know you aren’t one of them and nor are your friends! :-)

Big smiles!

Deena

]]> By: KJ http://kjlivinglively.com/2010/01/20/can-someone-help-me-with-well-intentioned-skinny-people/#comment-559 Wed, 20 Jan 2010 23:09:03 +0000 http://kjlivinglively.com/?p=1756#comment-559 Thanks for commenting! And making me laugh!

It was an absent minded remark and not a malicious one. Mainly because they haven’t ever worried about their weight – lucky them!

And thanks for pointing out that the grass isn’t greener on your side. I learned that when my friend (a size 2) in graduate school kept complaining that she’d gained five pounds. I can’t remember what I said (but I’m sure it lacked sympathy) and she turned to me in said: No matter what size you are, if you’re clothes don’t fit, you’ve got a problem.

After my friend and I are had our breakdown of what happened, they actually helped me come up with some stock replies so that if (when) if happens again – not necessarily with them, but people seem to be incapable of not commenting on food – I can have a ready response.

KJ

]]> By: Deena Kay http://kjlivinglively.com/2010/01/20/can-someone-help-me-with-well-intentioned-skinny-people/#comment-558 Wed, 20 Jan 2010 21:51:39 +0000 http://kjlivinglively.com/?p=1756#comment-558 Oh one last thing, The samich comment and the carrot, that wasn’t meant for you! Just FYI, hehe :-) I dont wasnt trying to offend anyone. That’s what I want to tell people who tell ME to eat MORE ;-)

Besides, sounds like you eat really good stuff…. NEVER feel like the 800 pound guy when there’s people like me envying that you can eat normal amounts. :-)

]]> By: Deena Kay http://kjlivinglively.com/2010/01/20/can-someone-help-me-with-well-intentioned-skinny-people/#comment-557 Wed, 20 Jan 2010 21:42:54 +0000 http://kjlivinglively.com/?p=1756#comment-557 LOL I wanted to share something with you after I read your post. I am one of said “skinny persons”. I’ll spare you what I ate for lunch… pretty boring. Not much different than what you’re friend ate.

On that I will say this, we too feel bad when our larger counterparts comment on how “we need a sandwich”. It’s my body, let me worry about it. LOL I can’t eat a lot of stuff because of digestive abnormalities. I’ve caused myself a lot of damage over the years from starvation/binge/purge/start over.

Many of us who pay close attention to what we eat in public, often pay a lot less attention to it in private and loathe that we can’t just eat whatever we want and feel good about it. We all have our moments because our bodies aren’t designed to survive, long term, on rice cakes and the like all the time. We all should probably have at 1500 calories a day on average. She probably went home and raided her icebox. Just a guess. :-) I will agree it was a thoughtless remark but she probably made it very absent mindedly.

I just wanted to share that at 105 pounds and 5 foot 3, I’m thin, no doubt and my grass isn’t any greener than yours. :-) It can be really hard no matter what side of the fence you’re standing on.

Feel good that you can truly enjoy what you’re eating. We often dont. :-) Next time, just say “Whatdya jealous??” and smile at her. :-) She probably is. hehe

Don’t tell me to eat a samich damnit or you’ll be walkin’ home with my carrot someplace you dont want it! LOL

Take care!

Deena

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